Military Spouse Magazine

DEC 2018

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Janine Boldrin Managing Editor E D I T O R ' S N O T E GO ON VACATION BY YOURSELF You may be saying, "But I already do so much on my own!" I understand, but it's important to take some time to recharge and think without the noise of others. Go to a conference, on a retreat, or even just get a weekend away. It's OK. The house won't explode (we hope). But you will come back with greater clarity on your own goals and hopes (and that is something every milspouse needs some time to think about). GET COUNSELING My, oh, my, I'm sure this is an adventure many don't think about taking… but one of the greatest failures of military life is waiting until things break to fix it. The challenges of military life are best dealt with head-on, so schedule some free counseling through MilitaryOneSource ( for the stuff that keeps playing like a bad record in your head. This counseling "adventure" will free you up for even better adventures ahead. TRY SOMETHING NEW EACH MONTH We all get stuck in a rut even when we move to a new place every couple of years. We may get hooked on a certain restaurant or go to a gym that is "convenient" or even watch the same television shows over and over again. Instead of settling into a routine, take a look up and think of something "new" you can try. Then do it. Exposing yourself to all life has to offer, from a new running path to a book you might not usually read, can give you a refreshing new perspective, and unexpected (but good) adventures. H THE WORD "ADVENTURE" CAN FEEL A LITTLE OVERUSED THESE DAYS. Maybe because the modern usage is often a way to rephrase a situation that can be less than desirable. It's not an unexpected PCS: it's an adventure. It's not getting lost in a new town: but an opportu- nity for adventure. While it's true that a positive attitude can drive a bad experience to "an adventure," we should acknowledge that these less- than-desirable experiences have real emotions attached to them that we still need to honor outside of the positive. For Marine spouse Jolynn Lee, being alone over the holidays was "an adventure" that helped her see that we need to turn outward instead of inward when dealing with a difficult time (page 12). For Army spouse Tonia Gütting, the adventure of many moves means experiencing wonder- ful foods and friendships that helped her feel connected 3 "A DV EN T U R E S " Every Military Spouse Should Take in an ever-changing lifestyle (page 16). Tragedy can even be tied to "a new adventure," a necessary rebirth, like in our story about the loss of a service member spouse (page 20). The adventures life gives us, especially in military life, can take us through valleys and over hills. Just be sure to stop, take a moment, take a breath, and look out and honor the view. Our adventures may not be what we expected (military life does throw us some curve- balls), but the strength you've gained along the way and what you have learned gives you an opportunity to stare even the craziest adventure in the face and say, "I've got this." Adventure Photo by Sean Baren Photo by Lucas Clara Photo by Rana Sawalha Photo by Nik Simons 6 MILITARYSPOUSE.COM / DECEMBER 2018

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